For when you know you want to start but don’t know how. These lifechat starters are meant to help facilitate deeper connections with others through themed, more “intense” questions. There’s no right or wrong way to use these. You can go through each question one at a time, you can jump around, you can stick to only the questions listed, or you can spend an hour discussing how much you hate the premise of each question. Generally, I’ve used them as a starting place often veering off into new topics as the follow-up questions build.

EXPLORE ALL STARTERS

Topic 01

LEARNING

Discuss learning styles, big teachers in your life, how you’ve grown, and more.

Topic 02

CELEBRATION

Discuss the last thing you celebrated, what you struggle to celebrate, and more.

Topic 03

COMFORT

Discuss what comfort means to you, what you do to comfort others, and more.

Topic 04

FEAR

Discuss the first fear you ever faced, the role fear plays in your life, and more.

Topic 05

GRATITUDE

Discuss how you show gratitude to others, what traits you’re thankful for in yourself, and more.

Topic 06

POSSESSIONS

Discuss your prized possessions, what you’d give away in a heartbeat, and more.

Topic 07

LOVE

Discuss how you know you love someone, whether you believe in soulmates, and more.

Topic 08

TECHNOLOGY

Discuss your relationship with technology, your first username, and more.

Topic 09

DECISIONS

Discuss the last big decision you made, what you’ve always struggled to decide, and more.

Topic 10

NEW YEAR’S

Discuss what you want to carry into the new year, what you want to leave behind, and more.

Topic 11

FAMILY

Discuss who you consider family, what was valued growing up, and more.

Topic 12

MUSIC

Discuss favorite artists, songs that make you feel the most, and more.

Topic 13

BOOKS

Discuss books that have stayed with you, characters you loved or hated, and more.